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Jealousy and Possessiveness

Are feelings of jealousy and possessiveness tearing your relationship apart? Regardless of any damaged caused, there are still ways you can defeat your feelings of envy. Best of all, you'll find your relationship is all the more stronger for having overcome these feelings.

Oftentimes, those who experience intense feelings of jealousy and possessiveness don't realize that these feelings are rooted in another emotion altogether: fear and insecurity. For example, you may feel envious of your neighbor for having a better paying job than you, but in reality you may fear that your own job may not be able to cover your debts or provide you with the funds you need to buy what you desire. You may feel angry and jealous that your partner gets complimented on his or her appearance, when in reality you are afraid that these bystanders are behaving inappropriately.

Once you've dissected these emotions, you'll see your feelings of jealousy and possessiveness for what they really are. One way you can help prevent yourself from doing anything you may regret is to talk at length with your partner, friends, or family about your emotions. Discussing what bothers you will come as a huge relief—after all, feelings of jealousy and possessiveness are often at their worst when they are pent up and kept secret. Better still, those you interact with will know how you feel and will do their part to help you through.

If you need a neutral party to help you deal with your feelings of jealousy and possessiveness, you may want to try therapy. Contrary to popular belief, seeing a therapist does not mean that you are in any way inadequate. At the very least, you will have a professional, serious person to vent your troubles to you and provide you with helpful, educated advice that you might not get from your friends or family. Furthermore, he or she will be able to help you examine why you experience jealousy and possessiveness in the first place, which is an important part of overcoming these feelings.

The more action you take to overcome your jealousy and possessiveness, the easier it will eventually become. Try keeping a journal of your progress. Make a list of certain unchangeable positives in your life. Having this list on hand during more difficult days will help enormously in reminding you that not all is as it seems. In addition to this, you will be able to mark your progress as time passes. Learn more today about how you can defeat your jealousy and turn your life around.